Mother’s Day can be hard for those whose mothers are no longer with us in the physical realm. Some people have strained relationships with their mothers which can also complicate the holiday. I offer a few suggestions below on how to cope with the upcoming holiday. As always, this isn’t a one size fits all approach. Whatever you choose to do, remember to take care of yourself.
Feel your feelings
There is no wrong way to feel on Mother’s Day. The best way to survive your feelings is to let them happen. You don’t have to talk yourself out of emotions or even judge yourself. Let them be.
Write her a letter
Writing can be therapeutic on its own as it helps you process and express your emotions. Don’t edit yourself. Don’t worry about it being grammatically correct. The goal is to set aside time and just write.
Stay off social media
It is perfectly normal to experience jealousy, sadness, and anger when you see others celebrating their moms on social media. Take a break and log off for the day. Immerse yourself in a fun activity. Call a friend. Watch a movie. Take stock of how certain sites make you feel and respond accordingly.
Spend time with people you love
Try not to isolate on days like this. Reach out to family and friends and set up time to spend together. You may come together to honor your mom or do something that has nothing to do with Mother’s Day. Whatever you do, try not to do it alone.
Share your favorite memories
One of the misconceptions about grief is that you have to stop talking about the dead because you don’t want to bring those down around you. Ignore this. Just because your mother may not be with you in the physical sense doesn’t mean that your memories of them have to come to an end. Share your fondest memories of your mom with those around you, whether on social media or a personal blog.
Sending everyone out there positive energy to get through the weekend.